The Bachelorette has a long history of casting contestants who aren’t there for the right reason, but their choice to cast Sam Nejad for Jenn Tran’s season proves they don’t care about her at all. Sam, who was one of the many hopefuls looking to win Jenn’s heart during The Bachelorette season 21, showed off some massive red flags during the early days of the season. While Sam was just one of several contestants who appeared to be on the show with ulterior motives, his strange participation in the series was difficult for Bachelor Nation to wrap their heads around.
Sam, a 25-year-old Entrepreneur from Carlsbad, California, was hoping that he’d be able to get to a point with Jenn where he could see himself building a future with her. One of the hopefuls on The Bachelorette season 21, Sam struggled to find a connection with Jenn as he moved through their time together. Stirring up drama instead of focusing on building his relationship with Jenn, Sam was one of the contestants that the other guys weren’t interested in getting to know. Rather than trying to find common ground with anyone, Sam made it clear he was out for himself.
Sam N. Didn’t Join The Show For Jenn
He Wanted To Build His Following
Although Sam tried to be upfront about the fact that he wasn’t entirely comfortable in romantic relationships, it was clear that he wasn’t looking for love or Jenn when he first showed up on The Bachelorette. While his conversations with Jenn were pleasant enough, Sam struggled to make any genuine connection with Jenn because he wasn’t there looking to find love with her in the first palace. Instead, Sam hoped appearing in the series would broaden his professional opportunities. In Sam’s work as an entrepreneur, no press is bad press, so getting his name out there was a good thing.
As his time on The Bachelorette season 21 continued, Sam continued to find it difficult to put himself out there in any genuine way. Sharing things about his personal life seemed to be too difficult for the entrepreneur, so he discussed his business and what was going on with the other guys rather than talking about himself. Stirring up drama, Sam likely felt like a red flag for Jenn, who could tell he wasn’t there for genuine reasons. Jenn was hesitant to open up to Sam when she realized he wasn’t on the show looking for a relationship at all.
Sam N. Wasn’t Ready For Love
He Was Looking For A Connection, Not A Relationship
While Sam was looking for something on The Bachelorette, it wasn’t a romantic relationship or any sort of love connection at all. Throughout Sam’s time on the show, it was clear that he wasn’t ready for the vulnerability it would take to be open to a romantic relationship. Sam’s conversations with Jenn were usually short, choppy, and dominated by his inexperience in relationships and love rather than letting Jenn speak about her desires. Sam’s experience with romantic relationships was minimal, making it clear to Jenn that Sam wasn’t going to be the right fit for her in the long term.
Though Sam seemed adamant that he was looking for a relationship with Jenn, he wasn’t ready for love never having experienced it. The fact that he was dominating conversations, refusing to allow other men to have time with Jenn when he was in the vicinity, and consistently stirring up drama for the rest of the guys in the cast were only the tip of the iceberg for Sam’s behavior. Generally, Sam wasn’t the warm, caring guy Jenn seemed to be looking for. He seemed unnatural, nervous, and overpowering for the majority of his time speaking to Jenn on The Bachelorette.
Sam N. Seemed Like A Producer Plant
His Dramatic Behavior Didn’t Seem Organic
Although it hasn’t been confirmed, Sam’s behavior on The Bachelorette felt like he was working with the production team in order to create as much drama as possible. Sam’s behavior overall was difficult to understand, but his need to stir up the drama on the series was a major red flag that even Jenn seemed to pay attention to. During his last group date on the show, Sam was aggressive, overpowering, and overly certain that he was the most appealing to Jenn. Throughout the date, his obnoxious behavior made him stand out in a bad way to The Bachelorette lead.
After the date, Sam and the rest of the winning team got to spend some extra time with Jenn during an impromptu cocktail party. It was clear that Sam was feeling incredibly sure of himself throughout the evening, but when he finally went to talk to Jenn and discuss their relationship, it was in an obnoxious manner that cut off another guy’s time with her. Sam felt like he was instructed by production to behave a certain way and, at the same time, to push for time with Jenn in a way that made it clear he was asserting himself.
Jenn Made The Right Decision To Let Him Go
She Didn’t Feel A Connection With Sam
During his final moments with Jenn, Sam asked if he could kiss The Bachelorette lead and move their relationship to the next level. Having been open and honest about the fact that he’d never been in a romantic relationship or kissed anyone, Sam felt that he was ready, but Jenn knew it wasn’t right for her to do. She explained to Sam that a first kiss was a big deal, and she didn’t feel like she was the right person to move forward with. While she could’ve kept him around to see if feelings grew, Jenn ultimately let Sam go.
After the first stretch of The Bachelorette season 21, Jenn felt she didn’t want to keep Sam around any longer to see if they could build a stronger connection. She’d heard and seen all that she’d needed to understand that Sam wasn’t the right person for her, and made the right decision to walk him out, eliminating him from the competition. While Sam was hopeful that he’d be able to make a strong connection with Jenn in order to find himself future success, his red flags prove The Bachelorette producers aren’t looking out for Jenn’s best interest on the show.